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I would love to see the reactions that this post would evoke. Anyway, I have been frequenting parties for the past 2 weeks or so regularly as that is what I have not been doing for quite a while. I had recently gone to a party where we were subjected to a variety of intoxicants, nothing too hardcore, just a variety of alcohol ranging from tequila, absynth, vodka, whiskey, beer, cognac and what not and some sheesha with some weird tasting smoke in it..wonder what it was. Was kind of a high fundu party.

So we hit the party at around 8 pm and we are all pretty much high and blown by midnight and sat down to have a quiet drink and smoke after the 4 hour long, non-stop dancing and howling. Our throats were all croaky and badly needed to sit down for a while. One thing led to the other and topics went whizzing past us, a group of strangers. We were some 8 couples chilling at a friend’s farmhouse and some random guys who joined us. One topic which was discussed apart from work, bosses, business, drugs, relationships, electronics, cars, movies, music….. was porn. That topic kind of lingered in every one’s mind and was something that even after finishing the discussion had lasting side effects on the group.

After the discussion, there would be one guy who goes up to the other and says, dude, I don’t think that can happen or I don’t think this can happen then another one joins in. I too found myself getting deeper and deeper into it, when all the women….in fact the women were not even bothered after the discussion. They all went out to the garden to start munching away, except a few who stayed back to get the inside gossip.

The family of sub-topics that the topic of porn exhumed was surprisingly vast and debate worthy. If porn was a living thing, it would have won the critic award for the most discussed topic that night. We all crashed at around 5 am, out of which this topic devoured 2 hours. It is not because it isn’t normal, but just because this was the first time, at least with me, that people with no inhibitions (owing to the lovely spread of “starters” we consumed) were discussing about a topic that was not, rather never, discussed in a group with an equal demographic quotient (males and females) like the other topics. Porn was just a topic that would be merely brushed upon in private and quickly tucked away or ewwed by a few girls after which the guys would avoid talking about it. Probably later they would get together (only guys) and finish off the discussion. The best part was, this time we had the women pitching in as well and also asking us questions which they seemed to believe, unlocked the doors to what little mystery us males withheld.Pity,we are like open books. All you got to do is read, unlike women which have a book with a flap and a padlock on it with a 16 digit combination that requires a man to spend half his life figuring out the combination, the remaining quarter of his life, asking permission to unlock it and the last few years reading just half of the book and perish with the mystery still buried in the last few pages. And the best part is women are not all that complicated by nature. Its just hormones, all throughout.

It started off with why guys enjoy porn so much. Now there might guys who say, “Porn? Please…I am not one of those kinds”. The truth is, every guy watches porn, if not regularly, sometime or the other. Don’t even bother saying, I watched it by mistake or I was forced to watch it and did not enjoy it. That is like an insult to the twins hanging in between your legs and if Hue Heffner hears you saying that, he will wrestle you to death even at the age of 90. The conversation went on and on and went deeper and deeper to how porn was such a huge business and how much money lay in it. Not actually generating porn content, but merely by starting a website that hosts pornographic content would be a huge hit. The women just didn’t know how big the porn industry was and how badly it had affected so many people and especially couples in India, after the infamous DPS scandal.

For once, we all felt very very mature and learned and imparted knowledge on how some guys are cheap enough to shoot women or click images and upload them onto sites. We told them how they should be extremely careful when they are in public as to how they behave, speak and most importantly what they wear. They still did not get it and refuted us. We were left with no other choice. Yes, we decided to show it to them. Each one of the guys had some information on this. Mind you, the group comprised of corporates, top level managers in MNCs, artists, models and a couple of musicians. All of them had different perceptions.

We open the website to show them and an array of disgust and loathe was portrayed by the women. Yucks, ewwwws, what the fucks?, disgusting, inhumane, terrible, poor girl, why is she letting him shoot him and a guzzillion other remarks. We waited till all the remarks condensed and shut it down and then went on discussing the topic. The women blamed us for watching it and giving it so much importance and thus helping it grow. As if content privacy has been put to an end. We are guys and no matter what you say or do, if something like this pops up, it will be seen. We asked them one question, what if someone came up to you and said they had an MMS of one of Bollywod’s actors butt naked or caught with his pants down, would they watch it. At first, they said yuck, no way, while some of them agreed they would steal a watch and that is all we needed. We had proven our point. Nothing can be done about it. Porn has been the oldest form of craze and still is and will be for generations to come. It’s come to a stage whereby even Bollywood has soft pron movies, its taking over the world commercially.

Voyeurism is growing at an alarming rate and video streaming and pod casts is just acting as a catalyst to this growth. Just like the movie Untraceable, where the killer straps his victims to a contraption and puts it on a website and as more people view it, the faster he dies. It is not that, all the people want to kill him, it is mere curiosity. its human.

- Women have to take the initiative to end this by not letting their boyfriends click pictures or videos of their intimate relations.

- Women should not send semi or fully nude pictures across the internet to whoever it is

- Women should be careful when on bikes, parties, malls, stairways, while sitting, in hotel rooms, bathroom, of two-way mirrors etc

Man I could go on. It is really a shame to see that women have to go through so much, but its necessary if you do not want to end up in one of these sites. It is scary, you have no idea.

What do you think? Never thought I will say this, but professional porn is different from voyeurism and has to be put to an end. That can only happen if women take a conscious initiative. But the worst part is there are women still amongst us, who do not mind all this. They still consider that healthy attention.

Cheers,
Mith

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